Things To Help Pregnancy
I am the girl who reads about these things but never puts a comment up so I hope that I get some answers as this website seems to be quite simple and very informative.
I have been married for a year and a half and am 23 years old. I have been trying for just over a year but am very prone to urine infections so I have had antibiotics a few times. Unfortunately I am not pregnant yet and wanted advice.
I have been to my doctors and we both have been tested and everything has come out clear. I even had an ultrasound and I was ovulating at the time so they told me when I ovulate too.
I have no idea why I am not getting pregnant and wanted to know if there is any advice or tips. I have actually started taking folic acid now. A friend recommended it and got hubby to start taking zinc.
Stress that my friends around me are trying later than I did and are getting pregnant puts me down and although I am happy for them... I feel sad too. I know that makes me sound so awful but I dont know how to get past that feeling.
Any ideas are welcome and i will try ANYTHING :).
Hope to hear from you soon.
Thank you so much for your comments, I really appreciate you taking the time to write, even though you're not normally the type to do that.
I want to say first of all that you shouldn't feel awful for feeling sad when friends become pregnant and you still haven't. This is a perfectly justifiable way to feel. The longing a woman has to have a baby is extremely strong and also very natural and you can still be happy for your friends but feel sad at the same time.
As long as you try not to let it distance you from your friends or get in the way of relationships there is no reason why you can't have a good cry about it when it hurts.
That being said, you actually have some very good news. Your doctor has confirmed that there is nothing wrong with either you or your husband. This is an excellent piece of information to work with.
This would suggest to me that we might be looking more at something caused by stress than something physically wrong, which is good!
It is easier said than done to chill out and not stress about getting pregnant, especially when you've been trying for quite a while. However, I can't emphasize enough the importance of not becoming too stressed about it. You will be amazed at the effect the brain can have on your body, and to give yourself the best chance possible of conceiving you must find some way of forcing yourself to relax and be calm and chilled about getting pregnant.
If your lifestyle involves other issues that stress you out too then it would be a good idea to take a look at that and see if you can possibly eliminate any unecessary causes of stress. For example, taking on extra work, partying too hard, staying up too late and things like that.
Somehow you need to get your head into 'positive mode' about this. So I would suggest that, rather than dwelling on your sadness and thinking negatively, you should try to think positively and see any good that you can in your situation.
An example of this type of thinking is, 'ok so far I have not been able to conceive, but I am only 23 and have many years to try to sort this problem out before it is too late'. Then you could think about the women who pursue a career until they are 35, only to realise then that they have fertility issues and only a few years to try to sort it out.
Thinking like this will hopefully help you to relax about your situation a little, and thinking positively does wonders for your state of mind, which in turn has an effect on your body.
Now on to the physical side of things. I'm sure you know this already, but make sure you and your partner are eating healthily and excersising. If your diet excludes anything such as meat, I would actually suggest including it back into your diet, even if it's just for the time you are trying to conceive.
You and your husband should avoid smoking or drinking too much alcohol. Hot tubs are also not good for mens' sperm.
As regards when you have sex, try to make sure you are keeping yourself topped up with sperm, as it were, throughout the month, but especially around the middle of your menstrual cycle.
I would recommend having sex every other day pretty much from when your period ends until it is due to start again. This will ensure that if you ovulate at an odd time, you won't miss it.
After sex, raise your bottom up with a pillow underneath and put your legs up for a good 10 minutes. This will encourage everything to travel in the right direction.
Also, after sex, avoid washing yourself out too much down below. I think it's a good idea to have sex before bed time and then leave washing yourself until the morning.
I don't think your urine infections should have too much of a bearing on this, but I just have a couple of tips that may or may not help with that as a side issue. If you regularly wear a thong or G-string it would be a good idea to change to normal pants as thongs can make you prone to urine infections. Also, after sex, make sure you try to pass urine every time, even if you don't really need to go and can only do a tiny bit. This clears your urinary tract of anything that could get in to infect it.
I think I've covered the main things you need to be doing to give yourself the best chance of conceiving.
Above all, don't beat yourself up about it and don't lose heart, you've got everything going for you.
I really hope that my suggestions are helpful and that you get the result you desire really soon.
All the best