Making Love During Pregnancy



When it comes to making love during pregnancy there are lots of questions that arise. It can be a cause for worry for many pregnant women if they are not sure of the facts or don’t really know what they can expect to feel about intercourse during pregnancy.

As is often the case though, a little bit of information about making love during pregnancy goes a long way to giving you a bit of peace of mind.

Some questions that pregnant women may have about sex during pregnancy are:

1. Is it safe to have sex when you are pregnant?

2. Can sex during pregnancy harm your baby?

3. Is it normal for your sex drive to increase during pregnancy?

4. Is it normal for your sex drive to decrease during pregnancy?

5. When is it not safe to make love during pregnancy?

6. Will sex feel different during pregnancy?

7. Which positions are the most comfortable for sex during pregnancy?

Let’s consider these questions one at a time.

1. Is it safe to have sex when you are pregnancy?

If you are having a normal pregnancy then making love during pregnancy is absolutely fine. It is ok to have sex right up until your waters break. After this happens there is a risk of infection, but until then, your baby is well protected by the mucus plug in your cervix and also the amniotic sac.

Some worry that sex during pregnancy can be responsible for premature birth, but there is no evidence to suggest this. Continuing your sex life throughout your pregnancy can actually be good for your relationship with your partner, and help you to stay close during your pregnancy and also after the baby is born.

2. Can sex during pregnancy harm your baby?

No, your baby is blissfully unaware of what its mummy and daddy are getting up to (thank goodness!). As mentioned before, your little one is well protected by the mucus plug in your cervix, the amniotic sac, and also your womb.

3. Is it normal for your sex drive to increase during pregnancy?

Perfectly normal! Many women find that once they get past the first trimester and they begin to feel more energetic, they start to feel very sexy and their sex drive increases.

This can be due to the hormones racing around your body, and also, increased blood supply to the genitals can make them much more sensitive during sex.

Because of this, many women find that during pregnancy they are more likely to have an orgasm whilst having sex.

If you have found that your sex drive has increased with your pregnancy then you are perfectly normal. Take the opportunity to enjoy being intimate with your partner before you get too big and it becomes more difficult to make love.

4. Is it normal for your sex drive to decrease during pregnancy?

A diminished sex drive is just as normal as an increased sex drive during pregnancy. The same increase of blood flow to the genitals, that makes some women enjoy sex more, can have the opposite effect on other women. Some women find sex more uncomfortable than they did before.

With the changes that happen to the body during pregnancy, some women start to feel as though they are not sexy or attractive to their partner. This can cause them to shy away from making love during pregnancy because they are not so confidant about themselves.

These feelings are perfectly normal. What is vital is that you talk openly with your partner about what you are feeling. That way you will be able to avoid any misunderstandings or frustration and may be able to come up with a way to make it more comfortable for you.

5. When is it not safe to make love during pregnancy?

There are some instances when professionals will advise a pregnant woman to avoid having sex. These cases are rare, but it is important to know what they are.

If you are bleeding during pregnancy

If you are experiencing cramps or abdominal pain

If you have a history of cervical weakness

If your waters have broken

If you have a low lying placenta (placenta praevia)

If you are experiencing any of the above it may be wise to avoid having sex until you have seen a professional who can advise you whether or not it is safe for you to continue having sex during your pregnancy.

6. Will sex feel different during pregnancy?

As we have mentioned already, many women find that the increased blood flow to their pelvic area results in a heightening of the sensations during sex. This means a lot of women enjoy sex more.

Some don’t enjoy it so much because it becomes a little uncomfortable for them. In all likelihood, sex will feel different during pregnancy. Whether this is in a good way or not so good, it is perfectly normal and to be expected.

7. Which positions are the most comfortable for making love during pregnancy?

To begin with you will probably find that you can carry on as normal. However, as your bump grows, you will find it gets more and more in the way when you make love in certain positions, such as the missionary positions, where the man is on top.

To keep things comfortable you will have to start being a bit more inventive. Some find that the all fours position, where your partner is behind and you are on your hands and knees works for them because it keeps your growing tummy well out of the way.

For others, a spooning position works well, where you and you partner both lie on your sides with your partner behind you. This is a more gentle way of making love during pregnancy and you can keep your bump supported at the same time.

The best thing is to try out a few different positions and find out what works best for you and your partner.

So try not to worry unnecessarily about making love during pregnancy. In most cases, it is absolutely fine for you to continue your sex life. But it might just call for a bit of honest communication with your partner and a bit of inventiveness.

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