Conceiving A Girl



For some ladies, conceiving a girl is a must. This could just be a preference, or could be because previous babies have been boys, and you just really feel the need for one of those dear little pink ones!

Unfortunately, we don’t have 100% control over what happens in the baby factory, but there are some things that can be tried to help with conceiving a girl. Some would swear by these methods, while others are more sceptical, but if you’re keen on giving it a go, it can’t harm you to try.

If you are really determined about influencing the gender of your baby and conceiving a girl then my advice would be to look into purchasing books on the subject and reading up so that you know you’ve done everything you can.

A book that is highly recommended for those who are serious about influencing gender is ‘How To Choose The Sex Of Your Baby’ by Dr Landrum B. Shettles and David M. Rorvik.

I’m going to cover some basic ideas that have been batted around by various folk and that you may find useful.

The Basics

As a starting point to conceiving a girl, it’s good to know how this happens. Your partner ejaculates semen into you during sex. The semen contains millions of tiny sperm. Some bearing an X chromosome, and some bearing a Y chromosome.

Depending on which sperm finds the egg first and fertilizes it, if it’s an X chromosome sperm then you get a little girl, and if it’s a Y chromosome sperm you get a little boy.

X Chromosome Bearing Sperm

One thing you need to know for conceiving a girl is that the X chromosome bearing sperm swim slower than the Y chromosome bearing sperm. But they are more robust and live longer than the Y chromosome bearing sperm.

Based on that, if you want to try to conceive a girl then you need to do what you can to try to let the girl sperm get to your egg before the boy sperm.

So what can you do?

Pinpointing When You Ovulate

You can do this a few different ways: (do bear in mind though that even if your menstrual cycle is regular, your ovulation times can vary from month to month)

1. Using an ovulation test kit – just before you ovulate your body releases a hormone called LH (Luteinizing Hormone). This is detected by the ovulation test kit and therefore tells you when you are about to ovulate. A few months of testing should give you an idea of when your ovulation occurs.

2. Basal body temperature charting – using a basal thermometer you can take your temperature at the start of each day and record it on a chart. A spike in your temperature indicates that you have just ovulated. A few months of recording this way should help you see when you ovulate.

3. Cervical mucus charting – this involves assessing your cervical mucus each day during your cycle and recording your findings. Just before you ovulate your cervical mucus will be clear and elastic in texture, very much like raw egg white. Charting this for a few months should help you to determine when you are about to ovulate.

The Best Timing And Method For Sex

For conceiving a girl, you want to try to give the X chromosome bearing sperm a better chance of reaching the egg first. Since these sperm swim slower than the boy ones but live longer, its best to have sex 2 – 3 days before you ovulate so that the boy sperm will have died before the egg arrives and only girl sperm can get to it.

Before ovulation, your cervical mucus will be more acidic than when you ovulate, and more acidic CM will be more likely to kill off the boy sperm and leave the girl sperm to reach the egg in their own time.

So try to make sure you have sex a few days before you ovulate and then stop to allow the boy sperm to die off, leaving the girl sperm to find your egg.

Some feel that not having an orgasm during sex can help the girl sperm because after an orgasm females produce substances that make the vagina more alkaline (opposite of acidic) which helps the boy sperm rather than killing it off.

It is also thought that shallow penetration is better for conceiving a girl because it places the sperm further from your cervix, which means the boy sperm are less likely to reach the egg before dying and the girl sperm stand a better chance.

How Can Diet Help?

Conceiving a girl is thought to be more likely if your diet makes the pH balance in your body lean more towards acidic than alkaline. This is because a more acidic balance will make your vagina a more hostile environment for boy sperm and kill them off quicker.

So if you are desperate to have a girl, you might want to try eating foods that contain more calcium and magnesium and less sodium and potassium. Some examples of foods that will help are corn, beans, cranberries, blueberries, meats, wine, yoghurt, sour cream and a decrease in salt intake.

On the other hand, foods to avoid would include potatoes, bananas and chocolate to name a few.

These changes will need to start a few weeks before you start trying to conceive.

One last tip for conceiving a girl, it is thought that caffeine makes boy sperm more active, so you will need your partner to avoid drinking caffeinated drinks before you have sex.



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